It could be seen that Greek mythology, has a specific dominance over romance since many legends. whether the romance between the two is acceptable or not is of course another question.
there is also a story, a story about a goddess, who fell in love with a shepherd. The goddess of moon Selene (also known as Cynthia) the story entwined around her could be said to have embraced, this softness. Goddess of the moon, Selene,
one of the most loving stories I have ever read, everyone has their own priority, choice of favoritism, and sense of entertainment,
but is mine one, this is a mythology of Greek and Roman. happens nothing, the thing you like whether exists or not. it doesn’t make any sense in love, as some have said “everything is fair in love and war”
we take it as the mythology of Greece and Rome because we don’t believe in it, as they think our religions are myths to them because they don’t believe in this, and this was their religion, they believe in it.
the moon is ruled by the titan goddess Selene, daughter to the Titan Hyperion and Thea, like her brother Helios “the Sun-god” who drives his sun chariot across the sky each day, and Selene drives a moon chariot across heaven,
In Greek mythology, there are three main goddesses identified with the moon, Selene, Artemis, and Hecate but only Selene was regarded as the personification of the moon.
selene the moon goddess, came out at night to light up the world, while Helios the Sun god was sleeping, she loved to visit mount Latmus which belonged to her. it was her influence that made everything there so quiet and beautiful, that seemed to be in another world.
one night moon goddess drove her milk-white chariot across the sky and saw a young shepherd whose name was Endymion,
Endymion was a mortal, shepherd, on mount Latmus in Greece who spent his life in perpetual sleep, he was so handsome, like flowers on the mountains or as the swan floating in the lake nearby, with their heads tucked under their wings.
one day Endymion led his flocks high up on the sides of the Mountain and let them browse on the rich pasturage along the margins of its snow-fed streams.
she watched him all night, he was so handsome that the goddess immediately fell in love with him. therefore she stayed by his flocks and watch all night.
she came the next night and night, for many nights to gaze at the sleeper and watched the unguarded flock. she asked his father to let her marry him, but her father refused her stating that he is a mortal and you are an immortal goddess. goddess can’t marry a mortal shepherd. one morning when she turned back to the sky. she looked so pale from her watching that Jupiter asked her where she had been, and she described the beautiful shepherd she had found on the mountain and confessed that she had been guarding his sheep and gazing him.
she told him that she has fallen in love with him, and asked her father to let her marry him, she feels a deep love for him. since Endymion is very beautiful he might always look as if she had seen him in his sleep, instead of growing old as other mortals must. Jupiter said here you can be in love forever, “Even the gods cannot give to mortals everlasting youth and beauty without giving them also everlasting sleep but Endymion shall sleep forever and be forever young.”
she requested Zeus to spell magic and put him in the enteral sleep cave of mount Latmus.
she used to come every night and spending her all night gazing at him for so long. The love of Selene toward Endymion proves that beauty never dies, it last forever, if you have loved, your heart never lets you find flaws in a beloved person. Your inner start endures his mistake, misbehave, and ignorances, his/her ups, and downs. no matter whether they are beautiful or ugly, white or black, tall or short, fatty or slim. The beauty of a beloved person last in your heart until and unless you breathe in a worldly place. before falling in love, heart doesn’t think that whether to be this person till the last breath is my destiny or not.
When the world comes to a standstill, it’s time for someone to say what they feel. For most people, this doesn’t mean that they want to hurt someone, it just means they think that something needs to change. However, this is not always the case in America. There are many times when violence against women, especially black women, is ignored or even brushed aside. Whether it be because of how often violence has been associated with being female or black or being in a poor area, people tend to view those who support a woman for her right to choose as “lazy” and “selfish” (and that’s what I always felt). This can make it hard for any person looking for help to reach out to them, but I would like to take a moment to break down why this happens and how this can be avoided. When we talk about violence against women, we need to be careful that these words don’t imply that we are talking about all women, but rather that we are discussing domestic violence. Being domestic means having a husband or a boyfriend or both. Domestic abuse is different from sexual assault;
there are many ways that domestic violence fits into sex-based violence: control over power, money, or even access to health care. Domestic abuse can also include things such as physical or mental abuse, which can range from simple slaps to choking or suffocating.
When you put your hand on top of an abuser’s hand (whether it be verbally or physically), they have their freedom and their choice; however, when you place your hands on their face and scream at them, they now have no power over you and anything they do now becomes a liability if they have to respond. What could happen then when you call them names because they don’t know where they put that one finger? So why does domestic violence become so normalized? Why isn’t it more recognized? Here are three reasons:
1) People love being used, and if they get their comeuppance, they are willing to get it again.
2) We only see men as violent toward women. Because it’s easy, everyone thinks they are. The reality is though that violence against women comes in every color, ethnicity, and gender. It does not come close to equal amounts, so most of us don’t try to recognize what we see. Yes, people who are in jobs or live in poverty may experience domestic violence, but so is anyone in another society, and how can we tell? They don’t care about themselves, they care about the children. The sad thing is you can’t always judge whether or not someone is going to be a good parent or a bad parent, and I believe that’s what makes domestic violence look so much worse than it really is. In some cases, we can turn the tables around and say “well maybe she didn’t do it by choice, but it was there and she got her comeuppance”. But that’s still not saying much. A lot of women were forced into it and people forget to realize that they aren’t the ones doing it to them. You have enough work on your plate, thank you? Maybe take a step back, breathe, and appreciate the situation you are placed in because the choices you made, are probably ones that should remain between yourself and life.
3) Victims of domestic violence are blamed themselves for their partner’s actions. This is due to shame and guilt, which lead to self-blame. I believe what victim blaming does well is not only take away our agency but take away empathy and understanding. How can we understand a behavior when we cannot say what we did wrong. We blame ourselves and the perpetrator as to why we’re hurting the other person. By telling ourselves “I did the same thing to my parents when I was little,” we are taking a stance towards our family and our friends. Instead of viewing the perpetrator as a monster, we are viewing ourselves as victims. If you’re a mother or father of a child or you’ve ever had a child, I hope you know how damaging your thoughts are when you have a negative thought or thought about yourself. When you start thinking negatively about yourself, you leave yourself vulnerable to anyone who is trying to take something away from you. Stop thinking about the mistakes you made, because everyone makes mistakes, and they will too. Try it instead by looking beyond your situation to see why you made the decision you made and find ways to fix them. Be kind to yourself and your feelings. Don’t spend all your energy on making excuses. Focus on getting better and taking advantage of opportunities. Sometimes we hear about people committing suicide over mental illness, but it’s often because they’ve taken a chance to commit suicide rather than because they have depression. So you cannot take part of the reason for suicides away because of the medical nature of the problem. Embrace yourself, embrace your past, and embrace where you came from. Helping someone else is far from selfish, and if you really cannot help your partner, please go see a therapist to talk through your issues so you know which path to take. Do not let your partner know that you want them to take responsibility and that you want them to know they need counseling. Let them know that you want them to think positive and that you’ve changed and that they should see that you are safe to talk to. Keep doing everything you can to make them comfortable and let them have any sense of privacy in whatever type of conversation you can have without feeling guilty about yourself or your relationship. These steps can open up new doors in your relationship or lead you down the appropriate path toward healing.
In order to prevent domestic violence from escalating quickly and permanently, there need to be many more conversations surrounding it or it will continue to escalate. Just being aware of it and recognizing it is important, but there needs to be more awareness. Even though it might be difficult for some people to admit when someone is hurting them personally, we need to recognize that our own well-being is affected by people’s views of us. As human beings, our needs are going to change in relation to how we show up to the situation we are in. While speaking to our abusive partners on the phone with no hope is not helpful or realistic, being kind to each other and doing what we can to be more present and mindful of what is happening is important. Speak up whenever someone tries to hurt us, but don’t stay quiet just long enough to keep it from escalating. Remember that we know what our actions are and that’s all they are, so we can take ownership of our impact on each other.
We should not allow others to force us to do things against our will simply because we’re scared or we are uncomfortable. We have a right to determine how to be happy. We have a right to make our own decisions regarding our bodies and our surroundings. We shouldn’t be subjected to harmful behaviors because of who we are, our background, or our background as young adults. We are each responsible for how we view ourselves, and the reality is that is all we are. We need to learn that and stop judging and worrying about ourselves or people who think we are more deserving than we are. All that will eventually add up, make you feel worse, and it will probably end up affecting you permanently. No matter how much someone loves you, don’t try to hide them or act ashamed of yourself. It will only make them continue to push and push and eventually lose control. It doesn’t help to be strong or confident when you’re broken, and we do not have control of anything that goes on outside of ourselves. The best thing we can do for someone who is struggling listens and encourage them to speak up, and remember those aren’t the only people they hurt. We shouldn’t stay in the dark and try to avoid being emotional and hurtful.
We need to be honest with each other, especially in relationships. That starts in childhood and continues throughout adulthood. We need to accept each other for who we are in front of the mirror and try to stop being so quick to judge. Don’t force yourself to be perfect, and don’t try to protect a person who doesn’t love you. Always be open to listening because sometimes you can’t put your fingers on what is actually happening, so the best thing you can do is be here for them. Never try to play favorites, and if you can’t stop yourself from showing them the affection they will eventually lose interest. There is no excuse for abusing someone for doing something as harmless as making dinner, but it’s nice to say thanks as a compliment as well.
Lastly, don’t compare your relationship and your abuse. Comparing yourself or an abuser to someone else is toxic and can create trauma. Both the abuser and the victim need to feel loved. One of the main reasons why we are abused is because we don’t feel loved. Our abusers are usually more emotionally intelligent than the victims, so they know exactly what I am talking about. Yet, I wonder if there is more to being a victim of domestic violence than just being a victim. Is there more to the pain someone feels when we harm them than just the physical harm? Or the actual harm? My answer would be NO. The fear and anxiety of the consequences that come with being a victim of domestic abuse could very well stem from a deeper fear and anxiety of not being loved. Maybe someone can only truly express the love the victim feels in return for being pushed or pulled down, but some people can
At a time when women’s rights are threatened around the world, Pakistan is ranked as one of the most dangerous countries for women.
According to a report released by the UN on international women’s day, Pakistan tops the list of countries holding prejudice against women the report states that at least 99.81 of the population holds at least one sexist bias. Pakistan is considered the sixth most dangerous country in terms of women’s rights violations in the world.
“A brother stabbed his sister five times and killed her mercilessly. He confessed that he killed her because she was talking to a boy”
“Husband and her mother-in-law tortured her and shaved her head before kicking her out”
“A girl was burned alive by order of a Jirga”
“Women are only for amusement to man”
Despite the risk, women are seeking freedom women are putting their lives on the line of fighting oppression and demanding equal rights.
In this society asking the girl about her marriage is considered to defect girls don’t possess the right to decide on their future, and they don’t right have to go against the selection made by the male. Interference of female in male’s recommendation, a decision considered to be disobedience. The first injustice that takes place is when a girl refuses to marry someone neither her refusal nor her choice is given any importance. And this is a very common event, everywhere, mostly countryside. If any girl doesn’t like a boy or that relative’s home and she refuses those Alliances (Relatedness), non will give any importance to her refusal. Get ignorance of her refusal. And daunt her to be calm. That girl’s talk is postponed. This is a very common thing that the marriage of child with, arranged in his childhood until the children reach the age of marriage, they are not allowed to smell of their marriage fixation with. Who is their relationship with?
These incidents are very common in the Hindu community like Kolhi, Bheel, Rebari et cetera these people arrange their marriages at an early age even groom and bride don’t aware of, that with whom her/his marriage going to take place. Their relationships are settled by their elders in their childhood and sometimes and happen like this that girl’s marriages are arranged the double aged man of her. At this age, girls don’t have any understanding of anything they are unaware of traditions and customs, and on their mistakes, their family-in-law start infraction by saying that this girl doesn’t have moral, don’t have sense.
Their childhood growing somewhere still in a corner of their heart. Think and wish that I could have a better childhood. but haven’t happened. On her wedding day didn’t know what was going on, she was just excited about her wedding dress
As she was being whisked away, she said to them, “Now that I have sat in the car I should go back home right? What am I doing here? Whose house am I going to? This isn’t my house, my house is back. She might think someone had stolen her toys, it feels like all her tore had been stolen as that her childhood was lost.
In rare it happens like that due to marrying in insufficient age they don’t get a baby. Some years later many of them are awarded a pleasure of a child. She doesn’t know what happens to her but she is happy with a child, thinking that God has bestowed her new toy. One to two it feels like she got everything and got that happiness forever. But as time passes, her-in-law and her mother-in-law’s behaviour changes. for 20 years, she put up with all sorts of abuse and she felt imprisoned every moment and then it become increasingly intolerable. The husband thinks that he does everything; the wife does do not anything all day. By saying that he targets her with many kinds of violence and taunts her on everything. Even though we can see that she get more physical and mental disturbance in her life than her husband. Caring child, looking after cattle( if have), washing pots two times a day, washing clothes of the whole family, sweepings, cleaning and helping her husband in every work that she can. Half of Pakistan and the world’s women work in different places for her family livings I used to go that to Thar (kaajer) passing bricks Kelin (bricks company ) I have seen women work more than men for her family living all the day, having no much income to buy new clothes they are in rags. Still, the husband says to her what the hell do you do all day?
Domestic violence
Domestic violence is a topic that has been hotly debated to date. This is a topic that has been around for centuries. When we talk about domestic violence, it includes domestic women also included men. There is a psychological disease. In our society, it is a bad habit to speak badly immorally, to be cruel to her and violate physically and it is understood that we are doing a great thing. And this is promoted to boldness. Saying that we are strong men because we keep pressing the women in our house. But it is very wrong and erroneous to do all this, the woman is not a father’s servant of any.
with whom you want to as you want, beat her badly. Never. Remember that she is your wife, not a maid or slave. Equal to out at home. She has left her parent’s house and come to suffer your oppression? No.
In 2016, the Punjab government made a law, the Punjab Protection Of Women Against Violence Act. It states that if a woman is violated and if she wants to go to court under section 4-12 if she calls on given numbers of that team then women protection officers will come to the doorsteps and will look into things and protect that woman. And Punjab has launched that application, Punjab safe Cities Authority. And women can protect themselves through it. If women are tortured physically in that kind of violation, Pakistan Penal Code (PPC) section 332, 333, 334-36, L1, L2. will be related to the violation that how much violated either slapped or injured her.
These laws are implemented and their sentences will be from 2,3 months to 25th years imprisonment. It depends on the extent to which type they have been subjected to torture. 506 PPC if death threats are made. BUT it usually happens like this that women endure all and live their lives in the suffering but don’t get a divorce, thinking that may I have some rest and peaceful life after children have grown up. Some women who raise their hands after suffering a lot eventually get a divorce. In our society divorced women, those who get a divorce are often targeted by society in different perceptions and make it hard to live their lives. women who get a divorce, their remarriages often happen with the old man (double aged ). in rare cases it happens that she has seemed to be comfortable. some times it is like this, that widows or divorced woman’s remarriage become more severe than earlier. her husband and mother-in-law taunt her on everything, every mistake, that you have killed/humiliated/eaten your ex-husband or made his life so hard. now what the hell you come to do here to us. in rare cases, their remarriages often become a comfortable zone, an example for others. I am not saying that in every first marriage she suffers from many difficulties. No! but in some cases, it happens. some women get poison to suicide or hang themselves, adopting that no one is willing to listen to us. there should be someone, who can speak on behalf of us, because if a woman feels ashamed or hesitant then she tends not to disclose her issue. there should be, but non is. some girls whose parents have died either in their childhood or in adult, daughters are often handed undertaking of paternal uncles and maternal uncles or aunties (father’s sister). their uncles get them married once in a good or bad family. then if some matters arise with her and she is subjected to cruelty. No one takes notice of her talk, and become she disappointed considering an orphan. and spend his entire life with that. but some families-in-law leave her and she comes to live with her paternal/maternal parents. her aunt taunts her we are humiliated with you what did you come for. a few days later their relatives get bored and try to kick her out, and sometimes girls are targeted by their uncles and cousins, sexual harassed. girls leave relatives’ houses by seeing a change in relatives’ behaviours. but there is no any for them to take care of their children and her. in that case in hunger she walks out for earning slices of bread. sometimes she wonders far and far for the job but doesn’t get a respectable job.
Sometimes those women get a job at a peaceful place. Sometimes women get jobs but in the wrong location where she considered a prostitute, Boss or owner of that institute or organization give her job for his sexual desire.
At some places boss harassed her, few women leave those jobs but a small number don’t and bear all these forcibly and are compelled to do all this for her children. Some women couldn’t get a job anywhere and become a prostitute to feed their children.
Nobody is a prostitute by birth, circumstances make her do it, poverty compels her to get into the dark. Their destiny is to become a prostitute
Male Dominant Society
Whenever a woman raises her voice, they accuse her of having an immoral character.
Women who raise their hands against male-dominant society are being warned or daunt/intimidate to take a step back. It has evolved to such an extent that nobody can challenge the decision of male Jirga. There is a misconception that women don’t have leadership skills or we say that our women are oppressed and can’t decide for themselves, so that is wrong, we shouldn’t think that a woman is incapable of making decisions.
In 2013, women have announced the formation of the Khwendo Women’sJirga through the media against male violence with his wife. To show that we too have our Jirga one of the members told that the majority of cases they faced, have to do with the domestic violation.
“her-in-law beats her openly in the street, one day they tied her to a chair and whipped her”
it’s like she has been imprisoned for the last two years.
Women went out to the old man and told him, join our Jirga they would say. “women aren’t capable of running a Jirga”. The tribal male elders ridiculed women and considered it as a joke, they said this drama will last a few days and that’s it. The marriage of minors, rape, sexual aggression and human torture are common practices.
In 1990, Syeda Ghulam Fatima set up the bonded labour liberation front an organization that works to eradicate bonded and child labour in Pakistan over the past 27 years. Fatima estimated she has freed more than 80,000 slaves from-bonded labour.
This is a really strange concept to ensure that the slaves remain weak and can be bought and retained.
I have a story related to a girl from swat valley. That a girl is married off with a boy who later goes to Saudi Arabia for the job. The girl’s father-in-law who was also her real uncle( blood relation) raped and abuses her multiple times for nine months. Her husband was working in Saudi Arabia at the time. When the girl tried to raise her voice to let relatives know of her ordeal.
The girl’s mother-in-law told her husband “she humiliated you”
Kill her, she was locked in a room and stabbed with a knife 52times. She was 12 years old when she was married off.
Later on, women Jirga heard about her and brought her justice. Women Jirga got her a settlement of roughly 30-35 lac from her family-in-law.
She told that ” initially my-in-laws were nice, but in the last four years, they began to change. In the last year, the beating began and I had a miscarriage. She got a divorce and had her father-in-law banished from the city.
There are quite a few cases that have a mark on one’s heart and mind when you see what these young girls are put through, it makes you weep.
In the dominancy of man and violation of man, there was a movement, women become angry at the continuous attack on their rights. They were angry at the increasing harassment in the public spaces. They decided they needed a platform with a minimum program where they brought together the maximum number of voices.
On the 12th February 1983 Farida along with scores of other women carried out a historic march in Lahore. Police brutality was rife and several women were jailed for that march, but this didn’t dampen their spirits and their activism. women started raising their hands against male dominant society named it “Women March” (Aurat March).
The earliest version was purportedly a “Women’s Day” organized by the Socialist Party of America in New York City on February 28, 1909.
This is being celebrated every year in March by these slogans
“My body, my will”
“Why are you afraid of my self-determination?”
“Jab tak aurat tang rahay gi, jang rahay gi, jang rahay gi
“Keep your dick pics to yourself”
“If you like the headscarf so much, tie it around your eyes”
“Nazar teri gandi aur purdah mein keroun”
(“Why must I wear a veil to keep you from ogling?”)
The first march was held on 8 March 2018 in Karachi Pakistan.
Women marches for women’s rights, violence, injustice. They protest for their lives to live free. Its often states that ” a happy woman is always a lucky woman”
Lots of injustice with girls, girls are not allowed to go to school out the class five. They have to sit at home, if they have finished matric they aren’t going to college. They can’t study they can’t work. I see this day and day out it just annoyed me that their parents are pleased to give preference to the boys and girls are looking at everybody’s faces and hoping that she will get permission to do something on some days.”A Girl Is Being Nurtured In The Irony Of Fate”
“The revolution will come with the women’s voice”
At a time when women’s rights are threatened around the world, Pakistan is ranked as one of the most dangerous countries for women.
According to a report released by the UN on international women’s day, Pakistan tops the list of countries holding prejudice against women the report states that at least 99.81 of the population holds at least one sexist bias. Pakistan is considered the sixth most dangerous country in terms of women’s rights violations in the world.
“A brother stabbed his sister five times and killed her mercilessly. He confessed that he killed her because she was talking to a boy”
“Husband and her mother-in-law tortured her and shaved her head before kicking her out”
“A girl was burned alive by order of a Jirga”
“Women are only for amusement to man”
Despite the risk, women are seeking freedom women are putting their lives on the line of fighting oppression and demanding equal rights.
In this society asking the girl about her marriage is considered to defect girls don’t possess the right to decide on their future, and they don’t right have to go against the selection made by the male. Interference of female in male’s recommendation, a decision considered to be disobedience. The first injustice that takes place is when a girl refuses to marry someone neither her refusal nor her choice is given any importance. And this is a very common event, everywhere, mostly countryside. If any girl doesn’t like a boy or that relative’s home and she refuses those Alliances (Relatedness), non will give any importance to her refusal. Get ignorance of her refusal. And daunt her to be calm. That girl’s talk is postponed. This is a very common thing that the marriage of child with, arranged in his childhood until the children reach the age of marriage, they are not allowed to smell of their marriage fixation with. Who is their relationship with?
These incidents are very common in the Hindu community like Kolhi, Bheel, Rebari et cetera these people arrange their marriages at an early age even groom and bride don’t aware of, that with whom her/his marriage going to take place. Their relationships are settled by their elders in their childhood and sometimes and happen like this that girl’s marriages are arranged the double aged man of her. At this age, girls don’t have any understanding of anything they are unaware of traditions and customs, and on their mistakes, their family-in-law start infraction by saying that this girl doesn’t have moral, don’t have sense.
Their childhood growing somewhere still in a corner of their heart. Think and wish that I could have a better childhood. but haven’t happened. On her wedding day didn’t know what was going on, she was just excited about her wedding dress
As she was being whisked away, she said to them, “Now that I have sat in the car I should go back home right? What am I doing here? Whose house am I going to? This isn’t my house, my house is back. She might think someone had stolen her toys, it feels like all her tore had been stolen as that her childhood was lost.
In rare it happens like that due to marrying in insufficient age they don’t get a baby. Some years later many of them are awarded a pleasure of a child. She doesn’t know what happens to her but she is happy with a child, thinking that God has bestowed her new toy. One to two it feels like she got everything and got that happiness forever. But as time passes, her-in-law and her mother-in-law’s behaviour changes. for 20 years, she put up with all sorts of abuse and she felt imprisoned every moment and then it become increasingly intolerable. The husband thinks that he does everything; the wife does do not anything all day. By saying that he targets her with many kinds of violence and taunts her on everything. Even though we can see that she get more physical and mental disturbance in her life than her husband. Caring child, looking after cattle( if have), washing pots two times a day, washing clothes of the whole family, sweepings, cleaning and helping her husband in every work that she can. Half of Pakistan and the world’s women work in different places for her family livings I used to go that to Thar (kaajer) passing bricks Kelin (bricks company ) I have seen women work more than men for her family living all the day, having no much income to buy new clothes they are in rags. Still, the husband says to her what the hell do you do all day?
Domestic violence
Domestic violence is a topic that has been hotly debated to date. This is a topic that has been around for centuries. When we talk about domestic violence, it includes domestic women also included men. There is a psychological disease. In our society, it is a bad habit to speak badly immorally, to be cruel to her and violate physically and it is understood that we are doing a great thing. And this is promoted to boldness. Saying that we are strong men because we keep pressing the women in our house. But it is very wrong and erroneous to do all this, the woman is not a father’s servant of any.
with whom you want to as you want, beat her badly. Never. Remember that she is your wife, not a maid or slave. Equal to out at home. She has left her parent’s house and come to suffer your oppression? No.
In 2016, the Punjab government made a law, the Punjab Protection Of Women Against Violence Act. It states that if a woman is violated and if she wants to go to court under section 4-12 if she calls on given numbers of that team then women protection officers will come to the doorsteps and will look into things and protect that woman. And Punjab has launched that application, Punjab safe Cities Authority. And women can protect themselves through it. If women are tortured physically in that kind of violation, Pakistan Penal Code (PPC) section 332, 333, 334-36, L1, L2. will be related to the violation that how much violated either slapped or injured her.
These laws are implemented and their sentences will be from 2,3 months to 25th years imprisonment. It depends on the extent to which type they have been subjected to torture. 506 PPC if death threats are made. BUT it usually happens like this that women endure all and live their lives in the suffering but don’t get a divorce, thinking that may I have some rest and peaceful life after children have grown up. Some women who raise their hands after suffering a lot eventually get a divorce. In our society divorced women, those who get a divorce are often targeted by society in different perceptions and make it hard to live their lives. women who get a divorce, their remarriages often happen with the old man (double aged ). in rare cases it happens that she has seemed to be comfortable. some times it is like this, that widows or divorced woman’s remarriage become more severe than earlier. her husband and mother-in-law taunt her on everything, every mistake, that you have killed/humiliated/eaten your ex-husband or made his life so hard. now what the hell you come to do here to us. in rare cases, their remarriages often become a comfortable zone, an example for others. I am not saying that in every first marriage she suffers from many difficulties. No! but in some cases, it happens. some women get poison to suicide or hang themselves, adopting that no one is willing to listen to us. there should be someone, who can speak on behalf of us, because if a woman feels ashamed or hesitant then she tends not to disclose her issue. there should be, but non is. some girls whose parents have died either in their childhood or in adult, daughters are often handed undertaking of paternal uncles and maternal uncles or aunties (father’s sister). their uncles get them married once in a good or bad family. then if some matters arise with her and she is subjected to cruelty. No one takes notice of her talk, and become she disappointed considering an orphan. and spend his entire life with that. but some families-in-law leave her and she comes to live with her paternal/maternal parents. her aunt taunts her we are humiliated with you what did you come for. a few days later their relatives get bored and try to kick her out, and sometimes girls are targeted by their uncles and cousins, sexual harassed. girls leave relatives’ houses by seeing a change in relatives’ behaviours. but there is no any for them to take care of their children and her. in that case in hunger she walks out for earning slices of bread. sometimes she wonders far and far for the job but doesn’t get a respectable job.
Sometimes those women get a job at a peaceful place. Sometimes women get jobs but in the wrong location where she considered a prostitute, Boss or owner of that institute or organization give her job for his sexual desire.
At some places boss harassed her, few women leave those jobs but a small number don’t and bear all these forcibly and are compelled to do all this for her children. Some women couldn’t get a job anywhere and become a prostitute to feed their children.
Nobody is a prostitute by birth, circumstances make her do it, poverty compels her to get into the dark. Their destiny is to become a prostitute
Male Dominant Society
Whenever a woman raises her voice, they accuse her of having an immoral character.
Women who raise their hands against male-dominant society are being warned or daunt/intimidate to take a step back. It has evolved to such an extent that nobody can challenge the decision of male Jirga. There is a misconception that women don’t have leadership skills or we say that our women are oppressed and can’t decide for themselves, so that is wrong, we shouldn’t think that a woman is incapable of making decisions.
In 2013, women have announced the formation of the Khwendo Women’sJirga through the media against male violence with his wife. To show that we too have our Jirga one of the members told that the majority of cases they faced, have to do with the domestic violation.
“her-in-law beats her openly in the street, one day they tied her to a chair and whipped her”
it’s like she has been imprisoned for the last two years.
Women went out to the old man and told him, join our Jirga they would say. “women aren’t capable of running a Jirga”. The tribal male elders ridiculed women and considered it as a joke, they said this drama will last a few days and that’s it. The marriage of minors, rape, sexual aggression and human torture are common practices.
In 1990, Syeda Ghulam Fatima set up the bonded labour liberation front an organization that works to eradicate bonded and child labour in Pakistan over the past 27 years. Fatima estimated she has freed more than 80,000 slaves from-bonded labour.
This is a really strange concept to ensure that the slaves remain weak and can be bought and retained.
I have a story related to a girl from swat valley. That a girl is married off with a boy who later goes to Saudi Arabia for the job. The girl’s father-in-law who was also her real uncle( blood relation) raped and abuses her multiple times for nine months. Her husband was working in Saudi Arabia at the time. When the girl tried to raise her voice to let relatives know of her ordeal.
The girl’s mother-in-law told her husband “she humiliated you”
Kill her, she was locked in a room and stabbed with a knife 52times. She was 12 years old when she was married off.
Later on, women Jirga heard about her and brought her justice. Women Jirga got her a settlement of roughly 30-35 lac from her family-in-law.
She told that ” initially my-in-laws were nice, but in the last four years, they began to change. In the last year, the beating began and I had a miscarriage. She got a divorce and had her father-in-law banished from the city.
There are quite a few cases that have a mark on one’s heart and mind when you see what these young girls are put through, it makes you weep.
In the dominancy of man and violation of man, there was a movement, women become angry at the continuous attack on their rights. They were angry at the increasing harassment in the public spaces. They decided they needed a platform with a minimum program where they brought together the maximum number of voices.
On the 12th February 1983 Farida along with scores of other women carried out a historic march in Lahore. Police brutality was rife and several women were jailed for that march, but this didn’t dampen their spirits and their activism. women started raising their hands against male dominant society named it “Women March” (Aurat March).
The earliest version was purportedly a “Women’s Day” organized by the Socialist Party of America in New York City on February 28, 1909.
This is being celebrated every year in March by these slogans
“My body, my will”
“Why are you afraid of my self-determination?”
“Jab tak aurat tang rahay gi, jang rahay gi, jang rahay gi
“Keep your dick pics to yourself”
“If you like the headscarf so much, tie it around your eyes”
“Nazar teri gandi aur purdah mein keroun”
(“Why must I wear a veil to keep you from ogling?”)
The first march was held on 8 March 2018 in Karachi Pakistan.
Women marches for women’s rights, violence, injustice. They protest for their lives to live free. Its often states that ” a happy woman is always a lucky woman”
Lots of injustice with girls, girls are not allowed to go to school out the class five. They have to sit at home, if they have finished matric they aren’t going to college. They can’t study they can’t work. I see this day and day out it just annoyed me that their parents are pleased to give preference to the boys and girls are looking at everybody’s faces and hoping that she will get permission to do something on some days.
today is the day of losing the greatest human being and beginning of misanthropy (misanthropist who are?? you know them very well, you are all aware of them, about whom I wanted to say I don’t want to mention them )yeah, this is the date, the philanthropist, humanitarian, and ascetic, An Angel of Mercy left this mortal world The richest poor man Abdul Sattar Edhi Sahab. was a Pakistani humanitarian who founded Edhi Foundation which runs the world’s largest volunteer ambulance network. Abdul Sattar Edhi was born in a trader family in 1928 in Bantvan in Gujarat British India, father’s name was Abdul Shakoor Edhi and his mother name was Ghurba Edhi, have one brother Abdul Aziz Edhi.he got married in 1965 to Bilquis. had four children ( two daughters Kubra Edhi and Iimas Edhi and two sons Faisal Edhi and Kutub Edhi )he was considered to be Pakistan’s most respected and legendary figure and in 2013 “the Huffington Post claimed that he might be ” the world’s greatest living humanitarian ” the Huffington post — HuffPost is an American news aggregator and blog with the localized and international edition, the site was launched on May 9, 2005, as the counterpart to the conservative news site Drudge Reporthis son Faisal Edhi said ( i have read this in dawn news reported in Dawn on July 8, 2016) that “he wished to be buried in the same clothes he used to wear, he also wanted to donate his body parts, but the only cornea can be donated as rest of the organ were not in healthy condition (because he died at the age of 88 )the state’s failure to help his struggling family care for his mother paralysed and suffering from mental Heath issues, was his painful and decisive turning point towards philanthropyin the sticky streets in the heart of Karachi, Mr Edhi full of idealism and hope opened his first clinic in 1956what are the golden words of Edhi Sahab, he said in his autobiography (A Mirror To The Blind) that “social welfare was my vocation I had to free it”what was the personality of human beings after Prophet Muhammed Mustafa peace be upon him, Edhi was a spiritual quest for the justice Edhi created maternity wards, morgues, orphanages, shelters and homes for the elderly all aimed at helping those who cannot help themselvesEdhi created a charitable empire out of nothingAbdul Sattar Edhi’s tireless work has helped save hundreds of thousands of love and show us what it means to be a man who works for the people”Despite all his success, he has always stayed humble, living a simple life in a small house barely large enough to encapsulate his enormous heart” you know he never established a home for his own children he summited, offered surrendered his all life to the nation as my friend Muhammad Qamar has written Urdu lines on ID
وہ سڑک پر نکلتا تو لوگ جھک کر سلام کرتے، اسے بابا جی کہہ کر بلاتے، وہ ہزاروں یتیموں کا باپ تھا، وہ ہزاروں بیواؤں کا کفیل تھا، وہ ہر لاوارث لاش کا وارث تھا، بھوکوں کو کھانا کھلانے والا، زخمیوں کو اسپتال پہنچانے والا، بے سہاروں کو سہارا دینے والا،یتیموں کے سر پر ہاتھ رکھنے والا، غریب بچے بچیوں کی شادی کروانے والا الغرض دکھیاروں کے دکھ بانٹنے والا عبد الستار ایدھی..
and someone else has said that
لوگ سمجھیں نہیں عظمت کو وگرنہخدمتِ خلق ہی انساں کو قلندر کر دے___
I am truly devastated, we lost a superhuman this day. the most loved Pakistani and one of our greatest hero Edhi not only we Pakistani but the world will mourn the loss of a great human being today is the death anniversary of Edhi Sahab may Allah rest his soul in peace
Khalil Gibran KhalilHe was born on January 6, 1883, in Beirut ( sultanate-Osmania). Khalil Gibran is author of the world-famous book “The Prophet” which was translated in more than 100 languages. He was a writer, poet, philosopher and visual artist. He himself rejected the title of philosopher. He died on April 10, 1931, at the age of 48 years. The cause of death was reported to be cirrhosis of the liver with incipient tuberculosis in one of his lungs (T.B and liver disease)Usually, a person is afraid of defeat and people run away from the loser but Khalil Gibran sees it from a new angle. He said that only defeat can bring you closer to yourself, and through the defeat, you will find your success. It is defeat that forces you to know yourself, it makes you realize your faults and he had written a most beautiful poem on defeat “ Defeat My Defeat””Defeat, My DefeatDefeat, my Defeat, my solitude and my aloofnessYou are dearer to me than a thousand triumphs,And sweeter to my heart than all world-glory”Explanation: My solitude, my loneliness, you are dearer to me than thousands of victories and sweeter to me than all the splendour of the world. Means defeat can only do all the deeds which others can not, defeat leaves us alone and that’s good because when we got to defeat that time we meditate, we think why it happens and try to understand the things“Defeat, my Defeat, my self-knowledge and my defianceThrough you, I know that I am yet young and swift of footAnd not to be trapped by withering laurels”(laurel is kind of plant, and its speciality is that it soon becomes green and soon dies, it is used for making a crown of conquerors. And it is also considered a symbol of victory)Explanation: defeat, my defeat, my growth and refusal through you and I get know that I am still a young and nimble man. I do not have to be captive by the hands of minor victory. “And in you, I have found aloneness,And the joy of being shunned and scorned”Explanation: and I have got loneliness from you, and I have enjoyed loneliness and contempt by being away from people. That means due to defeat, I am closer to myself and certainly, people never get together around the defeated person and never praise him. Therefore, the poet wants to says that he had learned enjoying hatred of people by defeat.“Defeat, my Defeat, my shining sword, and shield,In your eyes I have read, that to be enthroned is to be enslaved,And to understand is to be level down”Explanation: defeat, my defeat, my sparkling sword and my shield in your eyes I have read that coronation means to become slave, and understanding means you are losing your standard. When you become conquest, then all people become your fans and love you and you have to do work for them for impressing them mean you have become slaves“And to be grasped is but to reach one’s fullnessAnd like a ripe fruit to fall and be consumed”Explanation: and being in control means that you are at peak and have achieved perfection, and that means you are a ripped fruit, the ripped fruit falls off and people eat it.Certainly, people travel toward the peek and when they reached and there is no way to go up furthermore except to come down. Then comes down from the rise to the fall.“Defeat, my defeat, my bold companionYou shall hear my songs and my cries and my silencesAnd none but you shall speak to me for the beating of wings”Explanation: my defeat my brave friend, my brave fellow only you will hear my songs and will hear me cryings, and my silences and no one will talk about my escape except you. The poet wants to say that when he got defeat when he is defeated, only his defeat is with him to hear the voice of his heart and it is his secret that is aware of all his thoughts and feelings. “And urging of seasAnd of mountains that burn in the night And you alone shall climb my steep and rocky soul”Explanation: alone defeat is aware of the problems he faces and it is aware of his all dangers. And defeat can seep into its slopes and rocky paths,Certainly, when we become conquests then we look toward to people and receive gifts from them, and when we get defeat we seep into ourselves and try to understand ourselves. And we search faults in ourselves and this is very hard to find its own mistakes that seep in own collars and himself find its faults. And it is not difficult to find others fault, that’s why the poet said that “you alone shall climb my steep and rocky soul” so defeat alone enables you to know within yourself.“Defeat, my defeat my deathless courageYou and I shall laugh together with the storm”Explanation: defeat, my defeat my immortal strength, my endless power only you and I will together laugh and smile, in other words, in this difficult time only the poet and defeat will support each other and everyone else will leave them.“And together we shall dig graves for all that die in usAnd we shall stand in the sun with a willAnd we shall be dangerous”Explanation: and together we will dig graves for those who die in ourselves, and we will stand under the open sky with a great intention. And we will be dangerous only getting defeat we will know what we are we get know ourselves who is with us from the heart and who is with us in prosperity.Those who are with us in prosperity and through defeat we get to know the reality of that person, his true face comes before us. After getting defeat we will stand with a new intention of hard-working and be prepared to face a difficult time and we will be more strong and dangerous.
Raimal Raja Goail 